DershHK

Religion- Beliefs- and Personality: Is Sunni Muslim- is self-disciplined- can control her emotions and not take them out on others- is compassionate- is passionate- is hard working- is patient- doesn’t listen to any music except nasheeds with daff only- accepts polygamy because Islam accepts it- is fashionable- not in front of non-mahrams- and will be absolutely obedient and respectful of her husband. She understands and believes that life is not to enjoy and is a place for us the work hard for Paradise- accepts the negative realities but also sees the beauty and purpose that Allah created in everything- and likes to discuss deep topics. She should be: Reserved in presence of non-mahrams personality-wise -acting like a robot in front of them-- doesn’t display a soft- provocative- zesty- or melodious voice in front of non-mahrams -displaying a robotic voice-- displaying robotic physical posture when standing in front of non-mahrams- displaying robotic physical motion in front of non-mahrams- lowers her gaze from non-mahrams- wears hijab -must cover hair- neck- and chest- in front of non-mahrams- doesn’t wear ANY makeup in front of non-mahrams- doesn’t wear tight clothes in front of non-mahrams- doesn’t wear jewelry in front of non-mahrams- wears non-colorful and not-sparkly clothes with no design on them -in other words- completely plain- in front of non-mahrams- doesn’t show herself or her voice on social media- and doesn’t talk to non-mahrams unless something genuinely beneficial and necessary is to come out of it. In terms of gender roles- cooking -I require culturally-- cleaning -I require culturally-- and looking after her children in a way a traditional mother would -Islamically required- is primarily the woman’s responsibility. She can study and work as much as she wants as long as it doesn’t get in the way of her primary responsibilities- and it doesn’t prevent her from having children before the age of 28. Basically- if each then man and woman adheres to their gender duties- it’s preferable afterwards to help the other in their gender duties. Attributes -these are just preferences- not requirements-: cooks well- is good with children- is confident with her physical appearance and figure -but not showy-- speaks Arabic. Appearance: Doesn’t have red or orange- doesn’t have pale or very very dark skin- isn’t too chubby or too skinny- isn’t taller than me- doesn’t have fox or asian-shaped eyes- and doesn’t have a large jaw with long teeth.