99alih

Marriage is a journey that comes with it-s challenges- but I genuinely believe with the right partner it can genuinely bring peace and tranquility- as if you-re secured. Nobody is perfect -myself for sure- - we all have our shortcomings but if we work together to build a strong foundation that we can build our empire -metaphorically- on Insha-Allah. I-m sure everyone wants a supporting loving spouse who truly tries their best -not expecting perfection.- someone who they can come home to and know they-re in a safe sound space. Communication is very important in my opinion as this allows both parties to express themselves in the best of manners. I wouldn-t necessarily want my spouse to be working -only if it is halal- no free mixing and honestly benefits her and the Ummah at large but this can be discussed if it is something she is keen on-. Living separate is something I would want and I definitely would not expect my partner to have any financial input -no real man would to be Frank- but this also comes with what Allah azawajal commands "Men are in charge of women1 by [right of] what Allāh has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient- guarding in [the husband-s] absence what Allāh would have them guard.2 But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance3 - [first] advise them- [then if they persist]- forsake them in bed- and [finally]- strike them [lightly].4 But if they obey you [once more]- seek no means against them. Indeed- Allāh is ever Exalted and Grand." 4:34 Being open to Hijrah is something that should be taken into consideration as it is something I personally would like to explore Insha-Allah. I-d expect my wife to atleast wear hijab -looking to wear the niqab- as the most authentic opinion is that it is compulsory -yes I know there is difference of opinion but this is the strongest one- Performing her fard -salah- zakat- sawm etc- guarding her chastity and understanding her role as a wife and ofcouse her husband-s rights. I hope she can trust me and know that I-d be there for her thick and thin. I-d try to provide the best possible life -financially but also chemistry wise-. We want to live in a peaceful place where we both love and respect each other and honestly communicate together. I would never raise my voice and I definitely would not want to play the blame game. If something is wrong let-s work it out. Taqwa and ihsan is very important and that is something that will keep us in check. Please ensure wali- family is involved. May Allah azawajal grant us all spouses who will bring coolness to our eyes. Jazakallah khair for taking your precious time.