RationallyGodly

I-m a self-aware man who knows what he wants. Words that were used to describe me were growth mindset- honest-authentic and kind. ▪️The most important thing to me is to be a Godly person. As the deen is the Code of God- an algorithm- which serves as my worldview- existential lens and moral compass. Therefore- Godliness is  applicable to all areas of life. It is grounded in reason and positive outcomes- I do not view the deen as a set of blind rituals which are really just an extension of one-s culture. Nor do I do things just because -Muslims- are doing them or out of fear that God is some bogeyman that is waiting to punish us. I believe He wants us to be happy and enjoy life :-. I talk to the Lord every day about various things and I-m looking for a spouse to join me in that conversation. ▪️I am ready for the next stage in my life having focused on excelling academically -by the grace of God I graduated with a first and then completed my masters- and progressing my career. ▪️I-ve been described as a mature thinker with a calm- empathetic and logical personality. I-m more of an ambivert. I highly value healthy communication skills and have a strong desire to build a healthy marriage built on this- where we are mindful of avoiding the four horsemen -Gottman- iykyk-. That is what I aspire to- to lead my wife on how we can work as a team in a pursuit of becoming the best versions of ourselves -e.g. secure attachment-. This means we work to create a meaningful connection by truly getting to understand each other and the partnership. Among friends and associates- I am known for my knack of having deep-reflective conversations and intelligent discussions. I tend to have a playful sense of humour with those I know well. ▪️I am genuinely passionate about positive psychology and effective communication. This isn-t just a cliché for me- I try to embody it - I work in an assistant psychologist role -and no- that doesn-t mean I-ll try to "psychoanalyse" you - I-m too busy psychoanalyising myself! 😂-. I love that my job allows me to support and empower people. I am someone who-s quite motivated to progress and achieve my dreams and goals -most likely to a psychologists- if God so wills that I get onto the doctorate. I could then progress to senior consultant psychologists or something else-.   ▪️I try to engage with the teachings of the Qur-an as much as possible. I have a fair background in Islamic studies and have a teacher -scholar- who-s framework and curriculum I trust. Recently took a marriage course. I-ve started learning Arabic and it would be great if my spouse wants to do that too. But please note: I-m not necessarily looking for someone who has to be on the same level or higher than me in their knowledge and practice of deen. ▪️ To wind down- I enjoy drives in country lanes- going for strolls in nature or visiting museums and galleries. Would be nice to travel annually with my wife. I-ve completed -Umrah and would like to do so again with my wife soon after nikkah. I equally enjoy nights in. In terms of personal hobbies- I try and look after my body and mind: I keep myself fit through consistent gym -mostly weights- and have some interest in MMA. I try to eat simple and healthy. I am reflective and solution-orientated- and I sometimes journal to aid this. ▪️ I was raised with a strong work ethic and have worked two jobs simultaneously in the past. If I decided this was ever needed again- I would be fully prepared to do so for the wellbeing of a loving wife and children. ▪️I believe in digital wellbeing -especially for children!- and I don-t allow social media to overly influence my outlook on life -so if you-re on TikTok a lot and a big Love Island fan- we might need to discuss that 😆- ▪️ Whilst I generally have a calm demeanour- I am confident and capable of leading and protecting. I know how to be assertive when necessary -e.g.- in the face of dishonesty- disrespect or injustice towards loved ones or myself-.